Monday Motivation for March will be about finding the Mindset to reach your goals.
There is no substitute for hard work and action. When I think about some of the people I admire most, it is those who have worked their tail off to achieve a goal. All of the successful people I know, aren’t just lucky…they actively pursued their goals.
Every now and then I hear the media tout an idea or product as an “overnight sensation”. Usually, people behind the sensation have been working long and hard to suddenly gain the attention that is then deemed to be overnight. That sends the wrong message to those of us who have been toiling for years to reach our goals. Suggesting that time and effort are indicative of failure instead of determination. And, if that were the case, I should have given up on my dreams long ago!
Instead, change the way you view your accomplishments. Think about your dedication and your journey as part of your progress. Consider that NOT quitting or giving up on a dream can be part of your success story.
When does persistence become stupidity? That’s what I asked a career consultant when I wondered if a talk show was in my future after all. He answered my question with two of his own. “Do you still want it with all your heart?” But of course. “And do you keep trying new ways to make that dream come true?” Yep. Well, then.
Then what? “Then hang in there.”
I entered the Public Radio Talent Quest in the spring of 2007. I didn’t win. I didn’t even come close. But the experience reminded me how badly I wanted what I wanted.
One day, raw from longing, I asked another colleague what his secret was. He was a social worker turned computer consultant turned motivational speaker and back to computer consultant who had a knack for achieving his dreams. “Write your goal down,” he suggested. “There’s just something about it.”
“Yeah, right,” one voice inside me snickered. “What could it hurt?” another part of me countered. And like a kid who doesn’t believe in Santa anymore but doesn’t want to jinx things either, I committed the following to my computer screen: “A real honest to God national talk show.”
You can guess where this is going. Within weeks I had a meeting with the folks at a brand-new, big station in Fargo — to talk about what would become The Career Clinic radio show.
Hosting that program — which now airs on 89 stations across the country — is like being five years old on Christmas morning every week. It never gets old.
I hope you’ll listen. And if it gives you the encouragement to go after more of your dreams, it will have been a good run.
The theme for Monday Motivation in February is “Finding Your Passion”
I am passionate about MANY things: fitness, education and inspiring others are just a few. There is no rule that says that you have to be 100% passionate about one single thing in life. I turned my passion of writing and retelling the stories of others into my business: MyOwnLittleStory.com. Even though my business focuses on parents telling the stories of their children, I was able to cultivate my passion into an actual business. Also, my passion for fitness led me to become a certified indoor cycling instructor.
What do you enjoy doing that you already do every day? Your passion doesn’t have to turn into a business- it just has to feed your spirit and ignite a little purpose in your life. I have been a huge supporter of all things TED. TED.com is an amazing resource for inspiration and perhaps even helping you get motivated. Check out some of the videos- they are all pretty brief and the thing I love is that most of the people aren’t famous…they’re just people like you and me who found their passion.
The theme for Monday Motivation in February is “Finding Your Passion”. This passage was written by Elizabeth Gilbert who wrote Eat, Pray, Love. After such great success on her first novel, she admits that briefly lost her passion for writing. A friend suggest that she “Follow her curiosity” rather than continue to worry about rediscovering her passion for writing. Below is the brief summary of what she wrote followed by a link to the entire article:
So here’s my weird bit of advice: If you’ve lost your life’s true passion (or if you’re struggling desperately to find passion in the first place), don’t sweat it. Back off for a while. But don’t go idle, either. Just try something different, something you don’t care about so much. Why not try following mere curiosity, with its humble, roundabout magic? At the very least, it will keep you pleasantly distracted while life sorts itself out. At the very most, your curiosity may surprise you. Before you even realize what’s happening, it may have led you safely all the way home.
Three years ago, when I was in the midst of trying to take care of three babies, I felt completely disconnected from my husband. Brad left the house between 5:30 and 6 every morning and wouldn’t return home until 6 at night. Upon his arrival, he was expected (and willingly obliged) to help me get everybody fed, bathed and ready for bed. After all the work was done, we would collapse on the couch and stare at the TV. We would always comment how there was really “nothing” to watch. But we would sit there for an hour or two in a trance watching nothing!
As those days turned to weeks then months, I started seeing us as two trains chugging side by side down parallel tracks. This wasn’t acceptable to me, because I saw those months turning into years, then decades. Then, one day the kids are gone and Brad and I look at one another and say, “Who are you?”. Maybe I was extrapolating too far, but something had to change. Continue reading →
This is one of the most important books I have ever read. Based on what I learned from Mindset, I feel equipped to reach some of those goals that have eluded me for years. And, as a mother, I have some new tools for parenting my boys so they embrace challenges and are prepared for any obstacles that come their way. Read below for a “taste” of what I learned.
Are you a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? Maybe you have no idea which mindset you might be, and you wonder why you should care. But I assure you that the concept of mindset may be a game changer for you in almost anything and everything that you do.
The book, Mindset, by Carol Dweck, was suggested reading from my son’s 2nd grade teacher. But this is not a book about parenting. And the concept of “mindset” is just as important for adults as it is children.
The two different types of mindset:
The fixed mindset believes that your qualities are carved in stone. We are each born with a fixed intelligence, capabilities, a certain type of personality and character. These things cannot be changed.
A growth mindset believes that your basic qualities are things you cultivate through your efforts. They believe that a person’s true potential is unknown (and unknowable) because it is impossible to forsee what years of passion, toil and training will accomplish.
To further the explanation, I will summarize an example that was in the book: One day you go to a class that is really important to you and you really enjoy. The professor returns midterm papers to the class and you got a C+. Is your initial reaction that you are stupid or you like the class less? Or, does this grade motivate you to study harder for the next exam in hopes of getting a better result?
Now take that example and apply it to a situation in your life where your results were less than optimal. Did you quit that activity or start liking it less? Or did you rethink the situation and find a way to achieve better results? Continue reading →
You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.- Marcus Aurelius
This simple quote has been a guiding force for me over the last 8-10 months. I thought it was about time for me to share it with you all. There are days that I find myself lamenting things that are out of my control, and I will waste hours on them. What will my friend think of me if I have to cancel our plans? I spend an hour worrying about it, and then discussing it with some unfortunate victim; but, all that wasted time and ENERGY didn’t change the outcome. (My friend was not mad at me by-the-way). Just recently, a lady cut in front of me at Trader Joes. I politely confronted her and she turned her nose up at me. The nerve! I proceeded to call my husband and waste 30 minutes of his time telling him the story, Continue reading →
My sister sent me this passage a couple of months ago. I googled the origin of the passage and couldn’t find an author to attribute it to. Please take a moment to read it.
As two Buddhist monks were walking down a wooded path, they came across a woman in fine clothes that had stopped by a small section ahead of her that had flooded.
“I want to get across without damaging my clothes. Can you help me?” the woman asked of the monks.
One immediately hoisted her up, sloshed through the flooded area, put her down, and continued on his way.
The other, initially stunned, had to hurry to catch up. He seethed for hours and through the night. In the morning upon waking and resuming their journey, he demanded, “How could you pick that woman up and carry her across! It is not our business to be caught up in her troubles! What concern of ours to care for the state of her clothes? We are living this life to remove ourselves from that sort of thing!”
The other calmly replied, “I put her down yesterday. Why are you still carrying her?”
Is there something that has been holding you back from achieving your goals? Let go of the fear. Rise above criticism. Chase your dreams.
A new year begins and I have been thinking about the next few interviews I will be doing for TheInspiredMom. If you have been reading my blog over the last two years you have read the stories of some pretty inspiring women. In addition, each one of you reading probably has an individual in mind who inspires you on a more personal level. And I couldn’t help but think, if I interviewed each and every one of my readers I am sure I would find a story of inspiration. Hence the title: She lives in you. She lives in me; but, I didn’t just come up with these words on my own, let me back up for second…. Continue reading →
The other day I was feeling sorry for myself (although the video posted is me being silly): the house was such a disaster and I didn’t know where to start my cleaning. I decided to take a front to back approach. Starting at the front door, I began picking up and wiping down everything that was out of place. When I made my way to the guest bathroom I caught my breath. Dirty hand towel (something I despise- I must admit I will even dry my hands on my shirt if I am a guest at someone’s house and see a hand towel that looks dirty). This time I was the perpetrator with the disgusting towel. Easy to fix. As my eyes fell upon the toilet I was appalled to see dry yellow spots on the seat AND underneath the seat. When my boys were first potty trained, I had them following strict regimen of lifting the seat, then aiming carefully and using toilet paper to clean up any stray drops. My own mom once commented on how fastidious they were in the bathroom (ahhh, pat on the back). At some point my boys wised up. They realized that there was no way for me to police their carefulness in the bathroom and they started peeing with the seat down and leaving drips for me, the only seated urinator in the house, to sit on.